On January 30, 1915, a select few of Washington’s high society came out for the wedding of Edward Motely Pickman and Hester Marion Chanler. The two married in an intimate ceremony at the Meridan Hill home of Mr. Henry White, a former Ambassador to France, and his wife Margaret “Daisy” Stuyvesant Rutherford, a prominent New York socialite. (The Whites were distant relatives but close friends of Hester’s family.) The day before, Washington’s movers and shakers celebrated the young couple at the exclusive Alibi club where membership rolls included presidents, senators, chief justices, and ambassadors.

News of the wedding took the front page of The Washington Post’s Society section. However, it was not the guest list or the bride’s dress that made the Pickmans the talk of the town. Rather, it was their unusual honeymoon plans.

Honeymoons for members of D.C.’s high society were often leisurely cultural, historical, and social tours of the highlights of Europe – “a round of visits in English country homes, a sojourn on the Riviera, on the Italian lakes, or in the Swiss or Italian Alps."^[1] However, with the outbreak of World War I, the Pickmans’ decided to spend their honeymoon volunteering for the Red Cross, which had dispatched a force to Europe at the beginning of the war, even though the United States was not yet officially involved in the conflict. The organization strove to remain neutral, providing aid to both sides.^[2]

Shortly after the wedding, the couple travelled to New York, and, from there, sailed to Paris.^[3] Edward served in the ambulance corps and Hester worked as a volunteer nurse. The application process for the nursing service – a subsidiary of the Red Cross – was particularly arduous, emphasizing that women must be of a “good temper, discretion, and self-reliance.”^[4] Women often had to be between the age of 28 and 35; they had to provide recommendations and proof of loyalty, pass a series of interviews, receive proper vaccinations, have proof of birth in the US, and must have a passport. These hurdles often meant that a majority of the women serving were upper-class, educated, and single.

Although it was not entirely uncommon for young Ivy League graduates and debutants, like Edward and Hester, to have a desire and sense of obligation to assist in the war effort on the side of the Allies, it was very rare for a married couple to do so openly. The State Department even “decreed that women volunteers could not have a father, son, husband, or brother in the armed services.”^[5] Women who applied before their male family member, however, could circumnavigate this. Hester was also younger than the normal age requirement, as she was 21 years old in 1915.^[6] This leads one to believe that such restrictions were not in place or not strictly enforced at the time that the Pickmans were serving in Paris.

Despite being on their “honeymoon,” Edward and Hester were not stationed together during their service with the Red Cross. They communicated primarily through letters, frequently discussing family and social matters back in D.C. However, on their days off, they could travel together to tourist sites like Notre Dame, Versailles, and Napoleon’s tomb, and – at least for a few hours – pretend that they were typical newlyweds. Although many of their surviving letters are dated after their time with the Red Cross, it is obvious they loved one another deeply, and hated spending time apart. Edward signed off his letters with endearing phrases such as “your foolishly adoring Pick” and “heartbroken lovely, pathetic longing Pick.” He also wrote to Hester, “I miss you my darling,” emphasizing his loneliness by saying that there were “a very few nice people.”^[7]

As enjoyable as their excursions may have been, living near the front lines proved difficult and dangerous. There was a constant threat of enemy shells. They had to contend with lice, chilblains, hives, food and coal rationing, and the spread of diseases among other things. Hospitals were crowded and nurses were spread thin, caring sometimes for whole barracks almost singlehandedly. On top of the daily drudge, nurses were in charge of keeping up the men’s spirits, providing entertainment such as dancing. Ambulance drivers were constantly at risk, often having to drive under the cover of darkness to keep from being targeted by German planes.^[8]

Edward and Hester Pickman returned to the United States in August of 1915 after seven months of working with the Red Cross.^[9] However, duty soon called again and Edward enlisted in the US Navy as a reservist and a prison camp inspector. Once the U.S. entered the war in 1917, he served aboard the U.S.S. Wainwright, Torpedo Boat Destroyer No. 62, which was part of the first naval unit that was sent to Europe. However, the ship rarely encountered German U-boats and failed to pursue or sink them with any accuracy.^[10] In 1918, Edward, an ensign, was stationed at the American Embassy in Paris and looked forward to having “his wife join him and work under Edith Wharton doing relief work.”^[11]

The proposal made sense. Edith Wharton – widely known as the novelist who wrote Age of Innocence – was a close friend of Hester’s mother. She lived in Paris before the war and refused to leave once it broke out. Edith aided in charitable and humanitarian organizations, where she established workrooms and hostels for the French people. It is not clear whether Hester Pickman did end up traveling to Paris to aid Wharton, but it seems likely. Aside from American propaganda promoting service and Hester’s desire to be near her husband, Edith Wharton was known to be widely successful at eliciting her friends’ support for her cause.^[12]

Edward Pickman served with the US Navy until May 1919 when he was released from active duty. After the war, he continued his studies in European History, travelling around Europe for two years with his family. When the Pickmans returned to the United States, they settled in Bedford, Massachusetts where Edward had grown up, and raised their six children.^[4]